Ok, so have you ever met someone or had a friend that just creates a lot of drama all the time? Sometimes for no reason at all?? Yes, I have met many of those types of people in the 24 years of my life. Luckily, at the ripe age of 20 I figured out how to deal with the drama queens/kings. CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE! You can not waste time or energy on people who bring negative vibes to your life. No sir, you actually can’t. It is not worth it. You should respect yourself a whole lot more to not associate with those types of people.
I (finally) figured this out about half way through University. Some of you will say that’s pretty late (I agree), some others will say that’s about normal and then the rest of you probably have no idea what I’m talking about. That’s ok, you will one day and is best to know a good way to deal with them. So how did I learn this “CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE” trick, it’s a funny story really. I was studying at University but still hanging with the same friends from College. While I was trying to study and progress in my life, some of the said friends from college wanted to continue with the tedious high school bullshit and drama. What was once gossiping and harmless fun was now becoming weekly dramatic fall-outs. “I don’t like that your spending so much time studying, I guess our friendship doesn’t mean anything to you anymore”. Or we have the classic “do you think your above us because you’re a university student now”. Or we just have plain old bitching behind the back which, by the way, almost always gets back to the person so try not to do it.
I spent weeks, months, most likely years having to justify myself and the decisions I made to further my education and ultimately my career to people who were so-called friends. It gave me huge amounts of stress I simply couldn’t deal with; not to mention on top of the stress of university. It just got to the point of where I had no more energy or time to even think about dealing with this week’s drama that I just stopped being friends with them. I put my hands up and walked away.
At first I was scared and terrified that I had lost my only friends. And because I spent so much time with them outside of study, I hadn’t given any time or energy in actually making new friends in University. I was sure that I would be sad and lonely without them. But low and behold, I was fine. I was better than fine, I was great. I was so much happier. I didn’t have to stress about the unnecessary bullshit; I could focus on me and what I wanted. I had the opportunity to go out and do whatever I wanted to do now. I made a new life and I made new friends, better friends, who to this day I am still really close with. We do not bitch or fight or have unnecessary dramas involving each other. We are adults who are trying to figure their way through life. We support one another and the decisions we make. Of course, there are disagreements but we still love each other despite them. They are true friends.
I recently met a new person from my new course that I’m attending. They seemed absolutely fine until, you guessed it, they started an entire drama over nothing. It literally lasted 24 hours. They spent the whole time sulking, giving me the silent treatment and ultimately insulting me even though we only meet last week. I was so uncomfortable and stressed out and I’m only in week 2 of my studies. High school drama always seems to find its way into the most unexpecting areas of life. But now I know how to deal with these types of people and I have asked that person to not engage with me outside of the classroom. It is not worth my mental, physical or emotional well-being. If you ever meet anyone who stresses you or causes you to be unhappy over drama that doesn’t exist, I urge you to try my “CUT THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE” trick. And if you’re holding on to the fact that you have known them for so long and/or maybe one day it will change; you are dreaming. I know it’s scary and uncomfortable but you should love yourself enough to know your worth more than that. You need to put yourself first. I may have a love/hate relationship with myself but I can tell you now that no one will ever have such control over me in such a way ever again. And I am so much better off for it. Love yourself! Life is too short.
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